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Dreams Unfulfilled!

Some Dreams will remain unfulfilled!

So you thought, you were the master of your destiny, you can get whatever you want and if you try and try you will definitely succeed, and you were doing quite good in this. Winning battles after battles, ravaging opponents, winning war chests and exploring the treasures of lost world. But then one fine day you came across the biggest obstacle of you life, a road block so big that it has the potential to destroy your faith in yourself, the road block is so unsurmountable that it  demanded you to abandon the sweetest of your dreams, it demanded that you leave your life’s biggest desire. It demanded you leave the dream without which you life seems meaningless.

It demanded that you leave a dream unfulfilled!

But if such situation has occurred in your life, I am sure it will not have occurred all of a sudden. Life gives you clues and suggestion as feedbacks to follow and change the course of your life, and chances are that you would have ignored the signs of dead ends and carried further. So you would not have backed out earlier because the dream was worth every bit of the effort. You were so positive in you outlook till now that this set back may be devastating. But even if you had keys to your life and you can do whatever we want to, unfortunately you do not have keys to other person’s life, the other guy is not slave to your wishes and whims. They are equally well endowed to desire whatever they want to, whether good or bad. They have as free as will as yours.

Definitely, if you are at this juncture of your life, It’s a hard choice to make. Do you continue to pursue the dream till you turn it into a reality. Remember it’s a dream you have slept and woken for 4-5 years now or so. If you do that the risk is that you still may not be able to convince the other person ever because every one has as valid a reason as yours. The reward is that you may get lucky, but do you have the will now to further pursue a rather dead end. Offcourse, the confidence you will get after this dreams is fulfilled will be enormous and is worth trying and living again, but there are very valid risks involved which can drain you emotionally, if you do not get real in your dream world.

You will never fail if you try. But at the same time you cannot always succeed to get the results in the form you want it!

– vishal akhouri

We live in a world where there are limits to resources at our disposal. The most precious of the resources is time and if one wastes it that’s the biggest sin one can commit. You have to live million lives before you die. So if one decides not to pursue a dream that has become stale, although it may be the hardest choice to make and then implement but sometimes it’s wise to keep the dream unfulfilled! The idea is one should know when to give up.

Here are some learning from the book: ‘Who moved my cheese?’ by Dr. Spenser Johnson, where he talk about how to deal with change in life and profession.

1) Change Happens
They Keep Moving The Cheese

2) Anticipate Change
Get Ready For The Cheese To Move

3) Monitor Change
Smell The Cheese Often So You Know When It Is Getting Old

4) Adapt To Change Quickly
The Quicker You Let Go Of Old Cheese, The Sooner You Can Enjoy New Cheese

5) Change
Move With The Cheese

6) Enjoy Change!
Savor The Adventure And Enjoy The Taste Of New Cheese!

7) Be Ready To Change Quickly And Enjoy It Again & Again
They Keep Moving The Cheese.
By talking about some quick fix ideas,I really don’t want undermine the gravity of this situation because it’s most emotional and it’s most demanding. But whatever you choose to do, your decision should be aligned with the most basic of human instincts – survival (physical instinct) and happiness (metaphysical instinct). The point is take your time because it’s the most important decision of your rather short life, and do what makes you really happy.

At the end, it’s about convincing yourself.

By the way. when Einstein said, ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result’, he wasn’t insane.
– vishal akhouri